We experience an emotion through the limbic system, located in the right brain which creates these emotions from our experience. The left brain then analyzes the emotions.
When we experience a pleasant, agreeable and satisfying emotion we breathe normally and we continue to feel balanced, no ‘turbulence’ per se. However, if we experience an unpleasant and troublesome emotion, we tend to hold our breath, jump to the left brain of analyzing the emotion with distress, anxiety or pain, and frantically search for ways to avoid the experience such as overeating, reaching for a drink, exercising or shopping.
We are focused on avoiding an experience, and emotion, which now leads to a build up, like a stack of bricks, constantly restrained from feeling truly free.
It is important to master the art of processing your discomfort because it allows you to be present in even the most painful and challenging experiences, and have the ability to let them go as appose to carrying the weight of them around, possibly even creating positive changes in your life from the experience.
So how do we effectively process these uncomfortable feelings and experiences to be free of them? We can do this by sitting with it.
Try the following steps:
1. Pause - notice when a wave of uncomfortable emotions is rising and name the feeling, maybe its anger, sadness, excitement…
2. Body Scan - Locate the emotion or ‘turbulence’ in your body, this may be a tightness in the chest, a flutter in the belly, a clench in the fists or neck.
3. Sit and Breath – Try breathing into the space of sensations, even if you cant feel one particular place in your body, try facing the turbulence of emotion, allow yourself to feel it and breath through it, almost like you are disintegrating the turbulence with your breath.
4. Release – Continue to breath into the sensation until you feel it completely release, you may even try visualizing it leaving your body or expressing your self verbally or putting pen to paper.
5. Awareness – Once you feel the sensations and turbulence subside, start to gently come back into your awareness, scan through the body, open your eyes and scan the room, touch your skin. Engage yourself back into your surroundings.
6. Celebrate – Acknowledge and congratulate yourself on effectively working through the turbulence of your emotions, smile, go for a walk, put on some music…and allow yourself to feel wonderful!
Remember: You can tolerate the uncomfortable and difficult sensations, You can handle challenging situations and turbulences, and you can find that feeling of freedom through the art of effectively processing your emotions.
If you have any questions or would like to learn more please reach out to Lucinda Evans at firstname.lastname@example.org .